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Paul Stenger posted a condolence
Saturday, March 16, 2024
Hey Ronnie just thinking about you. I miss you and look forward to seeing you on the other side.
Love you
Paul
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Brenda Arci posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 11, 2017
Hi Ronnie, Happy Easter! I miss our chocolate bunnies we use to get. Thanks for being with us on Sunday at Marissa and Sean's gender reveal party. I know you had some input in the outcome. You are going to have a grand-niece this summer! I miss you so much and I think about you everyday,... still. I love you Ron. XOXO
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Friday, February 10, 2017
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Ronnie...it as approaching February 14, 2017. Now eight years since you left this world. I still miss you each and every day. With mom's passing just a few weeks ago, January 24, 2017, it has been so painful for all of us, but especially hard for dad. He is taking her loss like a knife in the heart, just like he did with you. Please Ron, please come visit and please tell mom that dad really needs her NOW. Please ask her to come to him, somehow, someway, in a dream or show a sign. He is so sad. We love and miss you both beyond words. Life goes on but it will never be the same. Please stay close. XOXO
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Brenda posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2015
Ronnie, My dear brother...Well, it's been six years now since you left us to go to the other side. I just want to say out loud that life has just not been the same here without you. So many wonderful, and some sad, things have happened, as I am sure you have seen. You would be so proud of your daughters. They have grown up to be such beautiful, strong women. We still shed tears wishing you were here with us. I love you so much and think about you everyday. I look for you in my dreams. Every time an Aero Smith song is played...I sing along with it, knowing how much you would have liked that. Please tell everyone that is with you that we love and miss them too. You are with me everyday and your spirit keeps us strong. I know you are watching over us. You are sincerely missed. All my love forever and always...Your sister, Brenda
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Bruno Amato posted a condolence
Monday, November 8, 2010
Big Ron....The OAK!....I just found out about your passing today...almost 2 years too late...Me and Ron were in bootcamp together in the Navy...he was something else, we immediately became best friends...we would go to the chow line in bootcamp and tell the other recruits that we get front of the line priveledges because we are both UDT SEALS, Special Forces.....he was an original...when he was stationed aboard the USS Eisenhower, he would send me casette tapes of himself, talking about everything....I would listen to those tapes constantly, it made my Navy days go by quick...he would always invite me over to his parties when he was home on leave...I lost touch with Ron, but even all these years later, will never forget him....I even have a cigarette burn or two on my arm...we'd let a lit cigarette sit between both our arms, it was our way of giving ourselves identical tattoos:).....my deepest sympathies go out to the Oakley family...God Bless you OAK!
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paul stenger jr posted a condolence
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Hard to believe it's over a year. I think of you often and those days in the '70s.
You were like a brother and I love/miss you.
Paul
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Chris Federowic Garlick posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Debbie, Floyd and family,
I am so sorry for your loss.
Sincerely,
Chris Federowic Garlick
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nancy fortier posted a condolence
Monday, March 2, 2009
Dear Ronnie, I am so sadden by the loss of you, you are the most caring,generous,and happy,funny guy I know. Thank you so much for being in my life and adding so much fun, laugher and most of all your understanding ways. I enjoyed every gift I received from you along with a 2day vacation down the shore. I know that you will find peace and happiness in the place above. Only people with Hearts as big as yours deserve a place in the sky. So,take your wings and spread them across the sky, and remember that when we feel the breeze across our faces, we will know that you are there. Love you Ronnie, your friend, Nancy
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Noel posted a condolence
Sunday, March 1, 2009
I didn't know you extremely well but you were always so kind and so much fun to be around. You've meant so much to so many people in my family. I am so grateful they all had you in their lives. God bless you and your loved ones.
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Jane Ruck posted a condolence
Friday, February 27, 2009
Ron I didn't really know you at all. I remember Aunt May really well. I met your sister Brenda who was really close to my mom. We missed her at mom's funeral. Anyway, your memory will not only be kept alive by those who loved you but you will also be remembered as a descendant of some of the proud French Hugenots who settled this country in the 1600's.
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Jill Weatherford posted a condolence
Friday, February 27, 2009
Ronnie - I am truly devastated to hear of your passing - as I remember my teenage years - there you are - smiling. You were my sister's first love. We all had so much fun together. I have no doubt that you turned into an incrediable man. May God bless you and keep you until we all meet again.
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CeAnna Chmura posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
I had Lizzie and Alex for daycare for 2 years, and I knew their dad through being their daycare counselor and summer babysitter. He was the sweetest dad, always so nice to the staff, and so in love with his girls. He really was their best friend and confidante and all a dad could be. I am so saddened to hear of his passing because I know how much his little girls worshipped him and he them. They and their family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Sonia Munoz posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
My condolences to the entire Oakley Family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Cliff Gallagher posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Wow! Ron was so Happy go lucky as I remember .. Trail riding in the pits and Rail Road tracks with Dale Berenzy, Mike Lucas.. Ron had the Blue street bike.. I fell on the exhaust when Ron went down in front of me!! All good.. Lost contact after moving to Colorado... Heard of this through Joe Dube and John Pozorski... Thoughts are with you man!! Cliff (Cameraman)
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Jennifer Breitz Koch posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
So sorry to hear of Ron's passing. I know his family and friends will miss him. Jennifer Breitz Koch
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Anne Diaz posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Dear Ron, I am glad to have known you so many years ago. I wish you peace.
Love,
Anne
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Lucia Marchese posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
I feel like I knew Ronnie as Brenda talked so much about him. My deepest sympathy to the entire family for your loss.
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his soon to be wife MaryAnn posted a condolence
Saturday, February 21, 2009
To My Ronnie,
I thought I wouldn't be able to write to you this way and have to face so soon that you are really gone. I'm sorry I had so much hope, I really thought that my prayers would be answered that you would receive this gift. Now that I have been reading all the love to you from so many others who are so sad and love and miss you it comforts me to know that I am not alone of course. I had to say my last good bye to you on the day I lost my Dad and you were there for me. Almost twenty years ago is when I first heard about you and (your crazy ways), I knew then I would love to hang out with you, but first you caught my Diana's heart, your Juliette, and asked if she would marry you when she grew up. Little did we know then that you would want to marry her mom, ME. We were finally so close, you caught my heart eight years later when you really came into our life when I was so sad and scared you immediately gave me happiness again with your love for me Diana & TJ. You shared with us the loves of your life the most special girls in the world for us to love, and then also our Molly. I feel so blessed that you made us a family. You helped me raise my children with so much laughter, fun and so many special memories that will never be taken away, even though you had to be taken from us we will continue to keep you with us in every aspect of our lives forever while missing you every minute of every day. The last week of your life I felt we were finally close to your chance at life up until your last day I never thought you would be taken. I wish now I knew what everyone else had been preparing themselves for, I would never have left your side for as long as they let me stay with you. I was saving my days off to take care of you through your recovery from the gift I SO thought was going to be given to you. I'M SO SORRY. God took you on the day we all are brought to celebrate our love for each other and it shows me that God loved you and didn't want you to be in pain any longer. You prayed to God everyday of your life thanking him for his blessings. Once again I'm SO painfully sad and scared without you next to me you were so strong and yet, the most sensitive man I knew. Try to come to me in my dreams as I asked so I can be able to sleep. Thank You for these passed almost 12 years, They were the happiest of my life and also for telling me so often how beautiful I was. I hope you can really know of the love that has been poured from the hearts of everyone you touched in your life, Than it would answer your question to me of, "What do you see in me ?" That answer is: LOVE. You will always be My Valentine and I will "always be your girl", because, "I know what love is", because of you. Thank You for my beautiful flowers, you did brighten my day, and also my life. "Love You Forever Too."
xO MaryAnn xO ( Your Adrian )
P.S. This time Ronnie,
Ya' know, it IS all about you
xO
I Miss You.
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Gary Schlomann posted a condolence
Friday, February 20, 2009
My thoughts and prayers go out to the Oakley family. I am so sorry to hear about Ronnies passing. He was my BIG BROTHER. The whole family took me in and treated me like I was your son. Ronnie was a riot. He never stopped, but yet he was very sincere as well. His heart was as giving and caring as could be. I remember when I first met him I was scared. The things he used to do to Floyd were unreal. Yet he liked me like a brother. Which I guess that let him do stuff to me too. The things he would say to me. Those I will just have to leave out.... I will always remember you and your family. I feel so lucky to have known someone like you. From what I have read you made a major impact on a lot people. Smiles are contagious. You made the world smile. You helped me to that share that pleasure. Thanks for being a part of my life. Thanks for the memories!!!!!!!
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Colleen Stenger Van Oudenaren posted a condolence
Friday, February 20, 2009
Ronnie, my dear cousin. What a character! A very unique individual.
I remember when we lived down the street from each other on Change Bridge Road in Montville when you, Brenda, me (and there was 1 or 2 others?) met at the bus stop in front of Central School. Brenda would come walking down in the latest fashioned shoe and we'd wait there. Ronnie would be pulling some kind of antic...one I still laugh at to this day...he'd hock up a lugie and spit it on the ground and he'd laugh as I gagged! (sorry, i know it's gross but it just makes me laugh all the time)
As we grew older he always told me how beautiful I was. Even one of the times I visited him in the hospital just a few weeks ago...when I walked in he said it again, "You're beautiful!".
Through the years at different family gatherings we would talk about spiritual things. During one of the visits in the hospital, about a month ago, we prayed together. Ronnie acknowledged Jesus as his Lord and Savior and he told me he was at peace knowing his final destination. I call it, The Last Best Place. Awaiting the day I see you there, my dear cousin, Ronnie.
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debbie posted a condolence
Friday, February 20, 2009
All of us would like to thank all of you for all your continous love, support and prayers. May the good Lord bless all of us and keep us in his heart. WE LOVE YOU SO DEARLY RONNIE. SEE YOU ON THE OTHER SIDE. ALWAYS AND FOREVER YOUR SISTER + DEBBIE +
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MORT DOWNEY posted a condolence
Thursday, February 19, 2009
I'LL ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU RON AS THE VIBRANT,WILD,CRAZY,FUNNY,TOUGH KID THAT I KNEW.YOU MADE ME LAUGH,CRY,FEEL LOVED,LIKE A BROTHER.YOU TOUCHED MY LIFE AND FOR THAT IN AM GREATFUL.YOU LEFT US ALL TOO SOON AND WILL BE SADLY MISSED.GOOD-BYE "OAK MAN" REMEMBER I LOVE YOU.
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Mark Selz posted a condolence
Thursday, February 19, 2009
I am deeply saddened to hear of Ron's passing. My thoughts and condolences go to all of Ron's family and friends.
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Diana aKa Danerz cheese posted a condolence
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Ronnie,
Today we put you to rest, your now able to go to heaven just like you told me you were ready to do. It still hasn't hit me that I'll never see you again. Molly will never bark like crazy with excitement when we would say "Ronnie's here!!!" and Mom will never give me a Milky Way again knowing it was always from you .. Listening to Aerosmith will never be the same, but i will always jam out to it for you.. im so sorry I got so emotional when I had to say good bye, I really tried my hardest to stay strong. For you, for myself and most of all for mom .. but I just couldn't help it .. I know you would have been so mad that I was so upset, I know anytime I was hurting you were hurting.. but I hope you understand why I was such an unconrtolably sad mess, I had to say goodbye to some one who was like a father to me, someone who raised me to be the woman I am today. It was very hard to let you go. I don't know how Mom and I got through it, and ofcourse TJ ..TJ, has never shed as many tears his whole life as he did since the day you left us. So many people showed up to your services .. I felt so proud to tell every1 you were like a father to me. I finally got to match the faces to the names of all your buddies and relatives you've talked about over the years. there was a lot of love in that room for you. I hope you saw us Jam out for you with Aerosmith playing. The funeral Director said "That was a first" which had brought a tear to my eyes and a smile on my face when I heard that because it just proves how very unique you truely were, you'd had always given us nothing but the best so in return we wanted to do nothing less then that best. I was so happy to Jam Out to Rag Doll 1 last time with you. and like you had always said " just go with it" ..and that I did.. Now that your gone its going to be a long hard process to heal this emptyness inside of us. Mom misses you so much, you were her everything.. I promise ill take care of her for you. I promise to help her now more then I ever have. I promise ill watch over my sisters Liz&Alex and we said we will see eachother as much as possible atleast once a week and I promise to make sure you live on in our hearts forever. I never thought id be able to let you go today, I didn't think I could say goodbye. but some how.. some way I got through it.. I hope you know how much you will be missed. please watch over us and visit us in our dreams. You can goto Heaven now Ronnie, we'll be okay
P.S. I hope you were proud of me today, I tried so hard to stay strong.
xOx*
Danerz
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Cheryl and Maureen posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
We are saddened to hear the news of Ron's passing. We will always remember him for his wonderful personality. He warmed a room the minute he entered it and his good humor stayed with you long after he exited. May he rest in peace.
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John Stenger posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Oak,
I have been thinking about you all day today, your final service was this morning and I can't get you out of my mind. I was remembering when we were about 14 or 15 and you kicked the crap out of those 3 kids at Montville High for picking on me. You wouldn't let me help you, you did it all on your own Bruce Lee style. It was great & I will never forget how you watched out for me that night. There were so many things we did in our youth together Paul, me & you. I know I can say you are embedded in both of our hearts forever & we will never forget you. You were always a caring person for everyone & I just wanted to take another moment to thank you & tell you how much you meant to me. Rest in Peace,
Love,
John
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Nicole Kroplewski posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Ronnie, you are one of the most giving, caring men I have ever met. I am so happy you were in my Aunt MaryAnne's life. We all saw all the good you did for her and her children. I thank you for always trying help and always bringing a smile with you. I will never forget the kindness you showed me everytime I saw you. You will always remain in our hearts. We love you!
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paul j. stenger jr. posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Aunt Joyce, Uncle Brut and family. I'm so sorry I couldn't make the services. I'm really depressed about Ronnie's passing. He was one of the people I was close to in life and will miss him very much.
I love you all,
Paul
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BARTOLONE posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Bro i miss you very much you were a friend a coworker we spent lots time at work together and now you are gone in a better place,i will remeber you forever your smile and the crazy things we use to do.
Ron take care yourself out there i will be thinking about you.
Frankie
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BETTY DAVIS posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
TO THE OAKLEY FAMILY ...WORKING WITH RON FOR SO MANY YEARS HAS BEEN A PLEASURE ...HE HAD A WAY OF MAKING PEOPLE SMILE AND LAUGH..HE WILL BE MISS ...MY PREYS TO THE FAMILY
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Carole Heath posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Brenda and family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you in this very difficult time.
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Michael and Susan Hand posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
THANKS FOR ALL THE FOND MEMORIES, THE GOOD LAUGHS, AND YOUR KIND GENEROSITY. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN OUR THOUGHTS. GOD BLESS YOU. LOVE, SUSAN AND MICHAEL HAND
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Sharon & Mark Caruso posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
JOYCE,BRUT, BRENDA, DEBBIE,FLOYD, LIZ & ALEX,
WE ARE VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. RONNIE WAS A GREAT GUY FILLED WITH LOTS OF LOVE & STORIES. EVERYONE WHO KNEW HIM LOVED HIM. HE WAS A WONDERFUL FATHER, SON, BROTHER AND FRIEND TO ALL. MAY HE REST IN PEACE AND WE WILL ALL BE TOGETHER AGAIN SOME DAY! MAY GOD GRANT YOU THE STRENGTH YOU ALL NEED IN THIS MOST DIFFICULT TIME. HE WILL BE REMEMBERED IN OUR PRAYERS.
SHARON, MARK, PATTY & MARK CARUSO
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Bob & Olga posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Joyce And Brut,
We are deeply sorry for your loss.
Love,
Bob & Olga
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Jim Mc Cabe posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Henny and Joyce and family. I am most sorry for the passing of Ronnie. I know you must be heart broken and I pray that some how the Lord gives you comfort and strength to get through this.Take care of the remaining members of the Oakley Clan , as you always do,and remember we will all be together in the next world and happy once again. Sincerely
Jim McCabe
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Ryan Tompkins posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I only met you a few times, but I feel like I know you very well because Alex has not went one day without telling a funny or touching story about you. It's obvious that she and Liz loved you and that you loved them very much. Thank you for accepting me as Alexes boyfriend and for helping her get me those great gifts like the flannels. You seemed like a great guy and you'll definitly be missed and not forgotten. I will try and take care of Alex the best I can. Thank you for doing such a great job raising your kids. Rest in Piece.
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Robert Van Duyne posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Although I only met you once, you left a great impression on me. It was obvious you lived for your daughters and they loved you more than anything else in return. Thank you for raising Liz to be such a wonderful and caring person, I love her very much and promise to take the best care of her that I can.
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jeff tympanick posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I worked with Ron at PSEG about 14 years ago.I still work at the company, but in a different location.I will always remember Ron as caring about his job & what a dangerous job he had.He wanted to make sure that our sub-stations were safe for all who entered.He just cared!!!
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Michele Young posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Ron was one of my favorite customers at First Morris Bank in Denville. He was always happy and smiling. I am saddened by his passing, and hope that God will give Ron's family the strength they need at this difficult time.
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Steve & Denise McGill posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Ron:
May you rest in peace. May your family be comforted. May the Lord bless you all.
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Irene Holak posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
To The Oakley Family,
So sorry to hear the loss of Ron - he will be surely missed. Love, Irene
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misha posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Although i only knew you for a short time, i was able to tell how much of a generous and loving person you were by the way you treated others around you. Your humor, generosity, and good spirit will be missed, rest in peace.
love, Misha
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Judy & Joe Falzarano posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
So sad to hear of Ron's passing. We were good friends in high school and have fond memories of days spent together back then. He had a wonderful sense of humor and zest for life. Our sincere condolences to all. Prayers for Ron being said today. Rest in Peace.
Love, Judy & Zip.
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Kathy Reilly posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
WITH DEEPEST SYMPATHY AND PRAYERS TO THE FAMILY AT THIS TIME OS SORROW
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Dorothy Leslie posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
We will always LOVE you and will never forget how you touched our hearts! From the time we met you at age 4, you've made a big impression on our lives that will never be forgotten. You'll live on in our hearts forever! We LOVE YOU Ronnie.
Dorothy & Aunt Ruth
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GLADYS posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
RIP RONNIE I KNEW YOU FOR A VERY SHORT TIME BUT FELT LIKE I'VE KNOWN YOU FOR MANY YEARS.BEAUTIFUL SENSE OF HUMOR,GREAT PERSONALITY & THAT IS WHY MARYANN LOVED YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH.RIP
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James De Brock posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Aunt Joyce and Uncle Brut,
I am so sorry that we are unable to make it to the service. Ronnie was a truly special human being, and I rest assured in God's promise that one day we will all see each other again. I know that these times are extrememly difficult for you, but please take solice that Ronnie is in a much better place and is smiling down upon us all. May the Lord be with you, and give you the strength to make it through the coming days, weeks and months. We will miss him dearly, but rest in the promise of God are father that one day we will all be together forever. We love and miss you all dearly and hope to see you soon. God Bless You and keep you near to his heart in these times of sorrow. Love Always, Jim, Judy and Arielle De Brock
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Steven DeBrock posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I will always remember water skiing together on Greenwood lake and thanks so much for introducing me to ZZ top, I still remeber listening to Fandango on vinyl with you so many years ago. God bless,
Love,
Steven
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Paula Onderwater posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
God Bless you and may He hold you in His Heart.
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Garry and Judy Kappmeier posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I just heard the tragic news and we're so so very saddened. Our condolences to you all and especially our good friends Brenda and Ed Arci.
. . . Please accept our prayers.
Garry and Judy Kappmeier
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Denise Naparano posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Brenda,and family; I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace and comfort in family and friends during this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
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Maria Montezuma posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
So sorry for your lost. My players and sympathy for you and your family.
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Linda A. Lozupone posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
My deepest sympathy and thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of Ronald Oakley.
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Dorothy Williams posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
BRENDA, FLOYD AND FAMILY I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF THE LOSS OF YOUR BROTHER RONNIE. MY PRAYERS GOES OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. I ONLY MET RONNIE A COUPLE OF TIMES WHEN HE CAME IN TO RICOH TO VISIT BRENDA, A COUPLE OF YEARS BACK AND HE WAS FULL OF LAUGHS. I KNOW YOU WILL MISS HIM DEARLY. BUT JUST KEEP ALL OF THE HAPPY AND JOYOUS MEMORIES HE LEFT HERE WITH YOU ALIVE, AND YOU KNOW HE WILL BE UP THERE WITH GOD LOOKING DOWN ON HIS FAMILY SAYING BOY THEY ARE MISSING A GOOD TIME UP HERE. GOD KNOWS YOU LOVED RONNIE BUT GOD LOVED HIM AND NEEDED HIM MORE AT THIS TRYING TIME.
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Christopher W.Latham posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Ron, We started together at PSE&G together and you were always a good friend. We as prior vets.always shared a bond of serving for our country and shared a lot of the same views.I am shocked you left us too soon.You will be missed by me as always a friend to share thoughts with and always there to help out anybody that needed assistance on the job.You were always a true professional and a good friend. ;You will be missed Chris ( SARGE )U.S.ARMY RET.
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traci posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
dear hank and joyce,
our family is so sorry for your lose. we didnt know your son but i know hank very well for the quick chek. may your son rest in peace and may god watch over your family in your time of need. our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
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Matt Hecht posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ronnie was a man's man. He was always a pleasure to talk to and always showed kindness and compassion to others. When I was a new employee at PSE&G, he was one of the guys I really looked up to. I am extremely sorry to see him go. I will truly miss him. Matt Hecht
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Anthony Arci posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Uncle Ron, I cannot believe I am writing this. When I was a little boy you always told me that I was going to grow up to be a big man someday, but I have to admit that right now it is hard to feel like one. Over the past nineteen years of my life, you have filled my mind with the best of memories that I will never forget. You are indeed the best Uncle, Godfather, and friend that a kid could ask for. I always looked up to you for your strength and honesty, even as a little kid. I always looked forward to the nights when you would sleep over and treat the whole family to pizza and Rocky movies. Not to mention the countless summers of you bringing us all down the shore and treating us to an awesome week of fun and laughs. I must say that I will miss that the most. I just want you to know that you played such a big role in my life and I won't ever forget you. I know this because you are more than just an uncle to me, you are also my brother. I would give anything just to shake your hand one last time and it hurts so much to know that I can't. You have done so much for me and I promise to do the same. Liz and Alex will be in good hands just like I promised you, and I won't let you down. We shared so many inside jokes together and those I will still keep just between you and me forever. I am so honored to have you as an uncle and as my godfather. You were the most caring and giving person I ever met and I will keep every gift you ever gave me for the rest of my life. Especially the last gift you gave me, your hat, which is hanging in my room above my window. I am going to miss those hilarious birthday cards that I recieved every year! A week early, never late, I might add. I love you Uncle Ron! So much! And I still look up to you the same amount that I did as a child. I am not going to say goodbye because I know this isn't goodbye. I will see you again some day. But until then I will miss you more than anything else. Rest peacefully brother! I am going to miss you so much. I love you Don Oakley.
Love, The Don Arci
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Maris Marie posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Uncle Ron,
My heart aches at the thought of never being able to see you in person or talking with you again. Everytime I hear the front door open, I listen to hear you call out, "Maris Marie!" It hurts so much to know that you have gone to the "other side." We knew it was coming and tried to prepare, but no amount of preparation could ever allow us to be fully ready to say goodbye to you for good. I just have to continue to remind myself that you are at peace and no longer suffering. You get to see Nana and Pop and anyone else you have ever loved and lost. I listen to your messages you left me over and over, just so that I can hear your voice. I feel so blessed to have had an uncle like yourself. You were always so kind and generous. I cherish all of our talks and time I had with you. You never failed to make me laugh with all of your crazy, crude jokes. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart(even though you always told me not to say "thank you")for everything you did for me, all the dinners you bought, gas money you insisted on giving me, LBI vacations and so much more! I will keep that poem you wrote me, forever. Please look down on me because I know I will be looking up at you. Please come visit like you promised. In my heart is where you will stay until we meet again. I love you.
xoxo,
Maris Marie
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Sean Jamer posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ron,
It meant a lot to me to know that you thought I was a good boyfriend to Marissa. I'm glad to have known you. You were a very special Uncle to Maris and Anthony, a great brother to Brenda, and most importanly a loving father to your daughters Lizzy and Alex. You will be greatly missed and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Scott, Tonya, Kristen & Tyler DeBrock posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Uncle Brut, Aunt Joyce and the entire Oakley family - Our thoughts and prayers are with our entire family during this time of need. Please find comfort in knowing that Ronnie is at peace and in Heaven watching down on all of us. Our deepest sympathies are with you all. Wishing you God's help for strength and healing. Love from Georgia. Scott, Tonya, Kristen and Tyler DeBrock
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Stephanie Goffredo posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
uncle ronnie, thanks for being like my second father when i was little. i'll never forget how great of a father you were to alex and liz and all the good times. you're one of the strongest people i've ever met. i'll be seeing you. love always, steph poundy cheese
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sean posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
I never had the chance to meet Ron, however I have known his daughter Liz for many years. Liz always talked very highly of him and I wish I had the opportunity to meet such a great person. I know he loved his daughters Liz and Alex more than anything and they were his world. My greatest sympothy goes out to Rons family and friends in this time of sorrow.
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Paul Terranova posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
I Worker With Ron In Secaucus
On And Off I Always Found Him To be A Good Person Who Thought Of His Girls And Family First. He Will Be Missed By All
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Diane Morabito-Vella posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
We are so sorry for your loss. Wishing you courage and strength thorugh this sorrowful time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Robert W. Stenger, Jr. posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ronald James Oakley was my cousin, my friend, my teacher, and my brother in Christ,
Ron was my cousin, we spent many weekends and summers together.
We had great times and childhood adventures.
Going to the movies, candy stores and playing in schoolyards that probably are not even there anymore.
I remember one time in Hawthorne I think we were 9 or 10 that we went to a chicken restaurant that was at the end of Ron’s street to get lunch, it was just Ronny and me, and we felt like we were such big shots. We ordered shakes and about half of the items on the menu and ate every bit. When the waitress went into the kitchen to get someone’s order Ronny and I ducked down behind the counter watching the refection in the plate glass windows. Waiting to see the reaction of the waitress. “Those Little Brats” Then we popped up and said “HI” after paying we laughed all the way home, at times falling over in laughter so please with our prank.
Ronny was my Friend.
In our old Montville house Ron and I got in trouble one time. You see Ron and I had been throwing rocks onto our neighbor Mr. Jones ice-skating pond to try to crack the ice.
Well Mr. Jones saw us and said that we couldn’t go skating on the pond.
So went everyone was over on the pond skating Ronny and I just sat on top of the roof of our old chicken coop and as we talked about how unfair this was Ronny broke out in song “Me and Mrs. Jones” well boy did we get in trouble when our parent got wind of this. Ronny took the heat and said that I had nothing to do with it all. But my father still sat me down and used the experience to talk to me about respecting people and how an honorable man always admits to his mistakes and lives with the consequences. These life lessons Ron and my father helped me learn. Ron was my teacher.
Ron and I went bowling one time and as we rode or bikes back from the alleys a huge stack of newspapers caught Ron’s eye and he stopped me because there was a treasure hidden in that pile of papers. You see the Daily News had been publishing caricatures of the New York Mets and the New York Yankees Players One in every Sunday Paper. So there Ron and I sat going thorough the piles. Ron got The Yankees and I got the Mets. I don’t know what happened to those prints but I know that I will carry the treasure and joy that we found that day together with me always.
I know that Ron Had Great Joy in his life, as I know he brought Great Joy to our lives.
We come together now not to just morn Ron’s passing but to celebrate his life and to Thank God for the time we had together.
Lord God, as you call home Ronald James Oakley our brother in Christ, Grant us your peace in the knowledge that this good and faithful servant goes to help prepare a place for all of us in Your Heavenly Kingdom.
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m.sims posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
TO THE OAKLEY FAMILY...I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOST ..I WORK WITH RON MANY YEARS.HE WAS A GOOD MAN AND A GOOD FRIEND ..MY PRAYS ARE WITH THE FAMILY
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Wilma & Paul Stenger posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ronnie what can I say? You were a beautiful person and so much fun to be around I am sorry we did not get to see you much in your adult life,but you will alway have a special place in our hearts. Sleep with the angels and be happy.Love Aunt Wilma & Uncle Paul
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Morabito Family posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
We'd would like to extend our most sincere sympathies to your family. Ronnie grew up with our eldest son George from Hawthorne, he in fact stopped over our house in the Summer of 2004 hoping to meet George's acquaintance, but he was not here, but we invited him in and had a nice long chat about family and the former years. A couple of years after that while working in the area, he again stopped in. He was a kind and funny man, always ready with a story. We enjoyed his company and reminisced about the days at Lincoln School etc. We hope he did not suffer, and we hope you all will one day find peace. We are so sorry that you are going through this tragedy. God Bless your entire family. Take care.
In Kind, Sandra, George, and family.
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Paul J. Stenger Jr. posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ah Ronnie, my childhood friend, thought those days would never end.
So much fun hanging out with you over by Quik Check or Bonavue. Smoking cigarettes up in the tree hope nobody catches you and me.
You're one of my best friends this is no joke. 'Cause to me you'll always be "The Mighty Oak"
Love you...Paul
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Ethel Fentzlaff posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Although I never met Ronald, I do know his father, Hank. He sopke proudly of his son and I am sure Ronald will be missed by many. He is with God now;I ask God to bless and watch over Ronald's family and help them in their time of mourning.
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Karin McCann posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Thank you for all of the good times. We made two beautiful children together and they are your legacy. May god bless them with strength and may god bless you with peace.
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Uncle Walt & Aunt Nancy posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Lots good memories - especially waterskiing & snowmobiling on Greenwood Lake. We'll miss you.
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Sheri & Brenden posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Always remember when you would sing me Sheri-Baby. We'll miss you!
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Debbie posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Dear Debbie,
So sorry for your loss.
Prayers and sympathy
Judy Stackhouse
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Betty Ann posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Outings with Dot Dot, Aunt Ruth and me when he was a youngster.
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Francine & Pete Befano posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
To all of Ron's family - our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Joyce and Henry Oakley posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Dear Ronnie, we will miss you very much. you will always be in our thoughts and prayers.
Love, Mom and Dad
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mike deblanco posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ronnie,
You were one of the toughest guys I knew. Your battle still keeps that memory of you in my head. Battled to the end.
God Speed
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aleta schulien posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Ronnie was our best friend in 7th and 8th grade, at Central School. He always had us laughing and was a very positive person. I am so very sorry to hear that this world has lost a wonderful humanbeing.
My deepest sympathy,
Aleta M. Schulien
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ISELA ACOSTA & FAMILY posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Let rejoice that God has you in his kingdom with no pain just unconditional love & joy!
My thought's & prayers go out to you and your loved ones.
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Cristina Sommo posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Dear Oakley Family I am very sorry for your loss you must of been the best person that you could ever meet. I know your two daughers loved you a whole lot and now RIP
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Karen Copestick posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dear Aunt Brenda and the entire Oakley family...I am so saddened to hear about Ron...My thoughts and Prayers are with you all....He will certainly be missed...God Bless...my love to you all..love,Karen,Adam and Emma Nicole
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Steph Corbo posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Ronny, one of the most amazing men I have ever met. You were the best father to both of your daughters, and they loved you to death. You always took me in like I was one of your own. I'll never forget you. I'll forever cherish the good times, especially vacation..all of those laughs. Your memory will love on. Love and miss you, Steph
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Stephanie Sullivan posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
My Heart goes to all that knew and cared for Ronnie.
RIP
With Love & Prayers
Stephanie
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LUKE MELILLO posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
grew up togeher,we will always be freinds even in heaven. god bless you ronnie.
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ashlea holak posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Hey Uncle Ron. It hasn't quite hit me yet what has happened. I still think of you just being about right around the corner from me. You will be very missed by me. Words cannot explain how much i dearly love you. You always called me your daughter and that made me feel very special. I will somehow some way try to talk to you. One of the things i will always miss is the sleep overs we would have with liz and alex. You would go out of your way to make it as special as you could for us. I could go on and on but i dont want to get anoying. One of the last things i want to say is there will never be a day that goes by where i wont think of you. You may not be here with me but you will always and forever be in my heart. I love you.
Love Ash
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Lynda Dube posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Ronny, you took me to my junior prom. I asked YOU and YOU said YES. I don't think i was a dream date but you were a gentleman to me then, when boys had no idea what that meant...You are my brother's best friend. We will not forget you, Ronny, and yeah, we'll see you on the other side. Peace and strength to your loving family.
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Randy Massaro posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Yo Adrian.....Ron, I am so glad that I got to know you. Just a few of my fondest memories were; Painting the Stangers barn & ended up having more paint on each other than on the barn walls "Paint fight"!!!!Going to see the Outlaws 3rd Row Center are just a few. I am so grateful that I was also able to spend time with you on your last few days here on earth before going to the other side. Your generosity never stopped. Ron the most important thing besides being a friend a good Son, Brother, Husband, Father & Co-Worker, etc. is your confession of your strong faith in Jesus and your salvation.
You Will be missed.....
Randy Massaro
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Fran Osborne posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Ron, you will surely be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you rest in peach with no more pain and suffering.
God Bless and watch over you.
Fran
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Tj Grom posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Ron,you have no clue the impact you've had on my life and so many others lives.You are one of the most important people in my life, you have tough me so many life lessons that I will always hold in my heart.You are one the most caring,honest and hardworking people that has ever come into my life. Through the years that we have spent together, I started to take on your ways. I myself became a caring honest hardworking person because of you. You are and always will be my best friend and my fathers best friend. Your humor and your personality will live in me forever. I want to thank you for all you have giving me in my life. You were so good to me and my friends and words cant not describe how much you are loved. Ever time I listen to our favorite band Aerosmith,I will smile and think of you. Thank you for the memories and I love you so much.
Your Pal- Tj
"Life's a Journey not a Destination"-Aerosmith
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Russ Holak posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
You were a very special father and uncle and you will be truly missed. I can honestly say I was blessed to know you and you made me laugh quite a bit. Thank you for all the fond memories. I think I saw you in Animal House!
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John Stenger posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
I would also like to extend my sympathy to Liz & Alex on the passing of their Dad. I appologize for not mentioning both of you in my earlier post. Your Dad will always hold a special place in our hearts. He will no doubt be missed by many of us. I cannot express how badly I feel about his passing.
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Liz Oakley posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dad, I am so lucky to have had you not only as my father, but as my best friend. From the day i was born you made it your mission in life to do everything in your power to keep me happy. You were the best father anyone could ever imagine. You were the strongest man i'll ever know and because of you i will always be a "tough OAK" and your "Ibish head". We will be together again one day on the other side, and until then i will talk to you every day and keep you in my mind and heart. I miss you so much daddy. Best Friends Forever. Love always and forever, Your Daughter, Liz
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ANITA GILMORE posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
RON WAS A WONDERFUL KIND AND GENEROUS PERSON. IT'S BEST HE DIDN'T SUFFER ANY LONGER, BUT NOW HIS FAMILY WILL WITHOUT HIM
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His Juliette posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
CORRECTION on my first post
* The greatest man I have ever known .. words will never describe my love for him ..
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Richard Law posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
My memories of Ronald are through Debbie Grom and Joyce and Henry Oakley sister and brother of Ronald. May Ron's entire family remain strong during during this time of sorrow. My prayers will be directed to all of you.
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MR AND MRS TIMOTHY GROM posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dear Ron
We love and miss you so very bad.The girls loved there Uncle Meathead more then life. We know your at rest now however our hearts are crying for you. Your the best brother and friend anyone could ever have. Love You Forever Debbie and Tim
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Alex Oakley posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dad, you are the best father and friend I have ever had. You are the strongest man I have ever known. You gave me everything I have ever wanted and more. I will always love you, look up to you and remember you. I love you more than you know. I promise to always be a "tough OAK". I am forever your alex, dorf dorf, and als my pals. One day I'll see you on the other side but until then you are with me in my heart.
Love always and forever,
Als
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Joe Dube posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Ronnie, I've never known a man who stood more solidly for the people he loved and the things he beleived in. You have been so much more than the most dedicated, generous friend a guy could ever hope for. You are the one and only "Oak" and always will be. I'd give anything for one more talk, one more adventure.We were astronauts on the Zipper ride Ronnie and I'll see you on the other side. Love to you and your family, Joe
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Joyce-Ellen Scalley posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dear Ronnie, I always remember you being a big part of our family growing up. I hope you have found your peace. Aunt Joyce, Uncle Brut, May the Lord guide you during this difficult time. My love always. Joyce-Ellen and Family
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Fred Stenger posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
I have a lot of great memories growing up in Montville with you and family. Thank you. You will be missed and never forgotten Ron.
Love, Your Cousin,
Fred
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John Stenger posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
I have so many fond memories of Ronnie when we were growing up together & I have to tell you I would give up everything I own to go back to those times. I wish I would've gotten to see Ronnie more later in our lives. Unfortunately I won't have that chance now, Rest in Peace Bro. "Oak" always remember you are "Premium"
I Will Miss You Dearly,
Love Your Cousin,
John
Aunt Joyce, Uncle Brut, Brenda, Debbie, Floyd & Family, I am truly sorry to hear of your loss, may god bless you & guide you through this difficult time in your lives.
Love to You All,
John Stenger & Family
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Linda Stenger Marino posted a condolence
Sunday, February 15, 2009
So many fond memories. You will never, ever be forgotton.
