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James & Sharon Serviss posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
We are very sorry to hear of the loss of your son. We met him a few times after Mass with your family and knowing how faithful and spiritual his parents are gives us comfort. We pray for all of you at this sad time. God Bless you all.
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Brittany Boykow posted a condolence
Monday, December 30, 2013
Oh, Thomas.
I guess why I waited so long to write on here is because a large part of me still refuses to believe you're gone. I still expect you to come bursting into my room telling me that I have to watch this new hilarious video you found or that I'll find you downstairs in your room listening to your music and plotting your newest crazy idea. All I know is that everything is so different without you here and I can't even begin to describe the void you left behind.
My first real memory of you is the day mom and dad brought you home from the hospital. I remember them setting your car seat down on the floor and being so excited looking in at you. I remember asking if I could help give you a bath because I didn't know what else to do. I guess that was the moment you first captured my heart. Having you for a brother is easily one of the best things that has ever happened to me and the best days of my life by far were spent with you.
You're honestly the kindest, most compassionate person I have ever had the privilege to meet. I was always so proud to have you as my brother and tell my friends you were mine. You always had a way with people and loved everyone equally and treated them as such despite what mental or physical limitations they may have had. Everyone loved you within moments of meeting you. You had friends everywhere. No matter how far away from home we were there was always someone who knew you and loved you. I don't think you ever realized how many lives you touched. You have such a beautiful gentle carefree soul. I don't think Ill ever meet anyone else like you in my entire life.
The truth is, for as long as I live I'll never forget that smile or infectious laugh. Or all those hours we spent together at the lake. All the music we listened to together driving around in my car with the windows down and music up as loud as my speakers could go. All the slushies we bought, walks we took, stories you told and adventures we had. I can talk about you for hours, days maybe, but for now this will suffice.
A life time without you feels so long but I know you finally found the peace that you never could on this earth. I know when you finally reached heaven Dot ran out to greet you like she always did with her tail wagging a mile a minute. I know you saw grandma and grandpa again and all your other friends who passed on before you. I know now that you're finally home.
Just always remember that I love you and always will until the day I die. With all my heart, soul, mind and being. You changed my life more then you could ever know.
Until we meet again.
Brittany
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Barbara Davino posted a condolence
Sunday, December 29, 2013
Dearest Thomas, We are so deeply saddened that you have left us. Our family will never be the same again. I want you to know that when you were away not a day went by that I did not think of you and pray to God to look after you. I miss you deeply but can only take comfort in the fact that you are safe and under the good care of our Loving Father in heaven.
Love and kisses, Aunt Barbara
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Christine and rest of Aschoff's posted a condolence
Thursday, December 26, 2013
Thomas I still can't believe your gone. We had just spoken a week before your passing and had plans to hangout. I will always remember the family parties and how we would all run around the backyard and play on the old swing set. Then we would go in the front yard and cause trouble haha. You were so talented in skateboarding, music, art, etc no one will ever forget that. Over the past 4 years we drifted apart but we still talked and made sure eachother was doing okay. I know you had some bad addictions and personal problems that affected your way of living. I wish I could have done more to help you. You didn't even know it but one of your teachers at one of the facilities is a very close family friend of mine. He would always tell me how you were doing and repeat over and over again how talented you were. He thought you were a great kid and so does everyone else. I will remember you for your amazing personality, warm heart, and never ending love you showed and spoke about for your family and friends. I'm glad you are at peace now but know you will always be missed here on earth. I love you tom you were like my brother. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about you and all the things we did together. I'll never forget McGraths class with Bri you would always bother us for food and read us poems. Always remember your family and friends love you and that it sucks but your passing is a step forward in showing other teenagers your age the horrible fates that happen through the use of drugs. Tom my mom, dad, sarah, and I love and miss you and hope you get to meet some members from our family up in heaven. Love always and forever Christine Xo
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Mary Lou McGrath posted a condolence
Thursday, December 26, 2013
Thomas,
It is so hard to believe that you are no longer with us. I am so sorry that you could not find peace and solace on earth. Over the last five years, I watched you struggle with mental health issues and addiction. I always held out hope for you Thomas - hoping that you would eventually figure out the right road that would bring you peace. I always respected and admired your free spirit. You did exactly what you wanted to do and did not pretend to be anything other than who you were. You were accepting of all kinds of people, compassionate and kind. There have been so many signs from you it is unreal. The song, "Somewhere over the rainbow" has special meaning to your mom and all the signs you are giving her is helping her deal with her grief. "Come All Ye Faithful" will always be meaningful to me, Angela and Pat - I know I don't need to explain. Tonight I was telling your mom I feel sorry for the angel that is assigned to you - no doubt you are giving that angel a run for their money! I hope you are at peace with Gramie, Grandma and Grandpa Boykow. I also hope you met up with Ian - he was a nice guy that I am sure you would get along with. I look forward to seeing you again - listening to you ramble on about what has been going on, hearing your laugh and seeing your dimples when you smile. Take care Thomas. I love you. Aunt Mare.
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Steve & Georgian Golda posted a condolence
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Our deepest sympathy to the Boykow family. I just heard of Thomas's passing today Saturday. Sorry for your loss!!
Thomas will be remembered in our prayers...
God Bless all of you! LOL
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Michelle posted a condolence
Saturday, December 21, 2013
I lost a piece of my heart with you Thomas. You spirit warmed my heart & you touched my life. You will stay right there, forever. I hope you are at peace & can rest. Diane, you have taught me so much about being mom. Your unconditional love & hope for Thomas is something I will take with me.. Xoxo !!!
All my love,
Michelle Brock.
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Sebnem Brezin posted a condolence
Friday, December 20, 2013
Our deepest condolences to your family. You will all be in our prayers.
A former St. Cecilia Parent
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Carlotti Family posted a condolence
Friday, December 20, 2013
Diane, George & Family, we were to very sorry to hear of Thomas' passing. You are all in our thoughts and prayers duirng this difficult time.
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Luis Tejeda posted a condolence
Friday, December 20, 2013
Tom Boykow you were my best friend and like a brother to me you inspired me in so many ways and taught me everything I know about guitar you were the reason why I started playing because you were so good and I wanted to be just like you. I am thankful to have met you and shared so many countless memories with you over the years I am thankful that you could always come to me when you were in need of help or trouble You memorized my phone number because you didn't have a phone When we hung out we were like kids without a care in the world playing zombies, watching happy tree friends, or just playing guitar together. You were the best friend I could have asked for. I was always there for you and you were always there for me we could tell each other anything. It makes me sad that you've touched my moms and sisters heart as much as you did and my mother cared for you as I did she would always ask how you were doing and when would be the next time I see you. I will never forget the laughs we shared and all the good times we had together. I know my brother will be there waiting for me in heaven I just can't bare the thought that your not here now. I know you are in a better place now and seeing you today made me realize that you were never lonely like you had told me everyone was always there for you. I just wanted you before you had passed how much you meant to me and how you impacted my life thank you so much for the great memories and times we had together. they will last a lifetime I will never forget them.
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Annemarie Eckert posted a condolence
Friday, December 20, 2013
Diane, George Brittany Joseph and Matthew
My Deepest condolences to you all during this sad time. My prayers and thoughts are with you all
Annemarie Eckert
A former St. Cecilia parent
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Basile Family posted a condolence
Friday, December 20, 2013
Sending you much love at this difficult time. Thomas will always be remembered by all he has touched and heaven is shining so much brighter with his presence. God bless.
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Connor Miskowski posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Tom,
you always knew how to brighten a dark room, I will never forget the times you made those around me and myself included laugh and laugh and laugh. Thank you for teaching me to play guitar and the ukulele. you helped me through a lot man and I am really going to miss you.
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Karen Jordano posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
George and Diane,
I remember Thomas being at Emma's after school when she had a house full...yours and mine! But, she loved it!
I am so sorry for your loss. There aren't words...
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Maggie Ryan posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
To the entire Boykow family, my deepest sympathies at the loss of Thomas. May his spirit and love be near you and may your faith sustain you through this very difficult time. Know that so many are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers.
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micaela lagona posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
i remember i went to east mountain school with tom, we were always laughing and had fun times. Hes such a funny kid. he always drew me pictures. and i still have my favorite one of a macaroni hugging a block of cheese saying, "you are the mac to my cheese" lol im going to miss you tom <3 sleep easy. <3
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Abigail, Saba and Indrias Berhane posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
To our beloved neighbor, Boykow family, we are extremely saddened to hear this heart wrenching passing of Thomas. May the almighty God give you the strength to overcome this tremendous sorrow.
May his soul rest in peace.
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Pat Basanese posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Dear Thomas,
I don't know where to begin. I will never forget you teaching me how to skateboard in your bedroom, to hysterically laughing with Matthew, Angela, and Brittany at Charlie The Magical Unicorn. Family get-togethers are no longer "get-togethers" because you are no longer physically with us. We McGraths are not one without you. I know you are always by my side, along with the rest of the family. I wish the world knew how talented and how much potential you had. My biggest wish though, is a way to help you with the past 4 years you have been suffering. I will never forget you and I know that you're in a better place. May you rest in peace in Heaven and fly high. I love you so much Thomas.
Loved always,
Pat
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Aunt Laura and Uncle Danny posted a condolence
Thursday, December 19, 2013
There are no words to describe the sadness we feel over the loss you Thomas. Your parents, sister and brothers and all of us love you so much. We're sorry you struggled in the last few years, and everyone wishes they could have made things better for you. Our Christmas Eve dinners will never be the same. Even as our family grows, there will always be someone missing - you. We'll see you again one day. Your Aunt Laur is sending so much love up to you. Until we're together again dear nephew.....
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Maureen & Chris posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
To the wonderful Boykow Family; Our hearts break for you at the unimaginable loss of you beloved Son Thomas. You are the most loving and caring family and we pray that your memories of Thomas will help heal your hearts during this difficult time. May GOD Bless Thomas and all of your family.
With love, respect and our deepest condolences
Maureen Lucas & Chris Kapasakis
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Mom posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Oh Thomas my sweet , loving boy. How my heart is broken right now. The pain I feel over losing you is immeasurable. How will I ever be happy again without you. I can only take comfort in knowing that the love we have for each other will always be present until we rejoice when we see each other again in heaven. I used to think that life was so short but it feels too long now to wait to see you again . Dad and I were always so proud of you and even through all your problems these past few years we never gave up on you. You tried these last few months but it was too hard. It is giving me such comfort to hear the loving things people are writing about you. If only you could accept how loved you were. Today I played "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" on YouTube. It was the Ukelele version you would play for me. I cried when I heard it but at the same time I felt you close. Thank you for always saying "I love you Mom" whenever we parted. That always warmed my heart. I was happy this week that we got to spend time together and I was able to make you your favorite dinner of Shephards Pie and see you enjoy it so much. My vision of you in heaven is not one of you resting but of you running around, skate boarding , greeting all our loved ones and friends. I like to imagine that. Until we see each other again... I love you Mom
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Diana posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
To my cousin, Thomas. I am so sad that you are no longer with us. Our family will never be complete again and you will always be in our thoughts. You always had a smile on your face and were always so nice to talk to. You had such a cheerful personality… you were so polite and outgoing. I have memories of calling you “lumpy” when you were little and I will always remember the fun times we had when you came to our house in Denville with Brittany, Joseph and Matthew to play with Gaetano and us. Rest in peace.
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Mary Meehan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
I worked with Mary Lou at Seton Hall and have fond memories of the way she always spoke of her little angel, Thomas. You are all in our hearts and prayers at Alverno College.
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lisa salberg posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
I will remember the quiet boy who was confused at the dinner I served.. nachos and the smile on his face when he tasted it and said "wow that's good!". I will remember that made my daughter feel like a princess and captured her heart. Rest easy now sweet boy and keep an eye that girl who will forever keep you in her heart.
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Sister Teresa Skierkowski posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Please accept my deepest sympathy at this difficult time. I did not know Thomas personally but do know his dad, George. To all of the family, know my thoughts and prayers are with you!
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Father Paul Holmes posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
We at Seton Hall University will keep Thomas in our prayers.
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Charles McGrath (Grandpa) posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Thomas, as you know, you were very special. You were the only one in the McGrath Family that could play a guitar and skateboard at a professional level. Your artistic skills were also confirmed in a recent pencil sketch you made of yourself.
Remember my nickname for you, “Tommy the Bull”, and also the McGrath Shuffle and the Dingo. Your presence and smile will always be missed. I love you.
God Bless!
Love,
Grampa
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Mary Lou McGrath (Grandma) posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
To my loving grandson, Thomas. Our lives will never be the same without you. We all loved you so very much. Today I was thinking all the fun we had in Pennsylvania, especially the time when you tried to get the chipmunk eating out of your hand, which it did. We spent so many hours together and how we talked about your music, your guitar and uke. I am so glad I recorded your songs. You were a great artist, and I will treasure the picture of the bird you drew, which you gave to me the very last time I saw. You had so much talent writing your own music. I loved your hair too. Maybe not the earrings. Only kidding. And those dimples in your cheeks, always made me smile when I looked at you. You were a kind loving boy and I was always so proud of you. I never will forget our many conversations. You were always full of life, talking, planning what you wanted to do in the future. I pray that you are at peace in our Lord's presence and that he will watch over you and keep you for us until we see your loving, handsome face again. I love you so much and I will always remember that you always told me you loved me whenever we said goodbye to each other. Goodbye dear Thomas. There will not be a day that goes by that I will not think of you. Love, Grandma
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Aunt Chrissy, Uncle George, Michael and Maria posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
We will miss you so much,Thomas. Michael and Maria were remembering all the fun they had with you when you would visit them after school when they were little. You always were so interesting to talk to and so happy. You reminded me so much of your mom. We will always remember you. We love you.
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Aunt Valerie, Uncle Steve, Nicole and Chris posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
We will always love and remember the little boy who loved wolves, Star Wars and his favorite hamster Pellet. May you rest in peace in heaven with Grandma and Grandpa.
